What are your favorite childhood memories? Many are likely those traditions or rituals that have emotional significance to you, such as Saturday morning pancakes that your dad made or special traditions for your birthday. Having rituals and traditions in a family improves the bond within your family, as well as the quality of family life.
In the December 2002 issue of the American Psychological Association’s (APA) Journal of Family Psychology, a review of the literature revealed that the benefits of family rituals far exceed the bonds developed; practicing rituals also supports children’s health, school performance, and a sense of belonging.
Why is it important to create rituals? Observing rituals in your family is one way to demonstrate your family’s beliefs and uniqueness. Don’t let your child’s hectic schedule of dance and piano lessons, basketball, or after-school play dates interfere with your “together time” and the rituals that you create. Rituals do not require great expenditures or the family with a Mother, Father, and 2.5 children. Rituals have great value regardless of the makeup of your family and leaves an emotional imprint within your family. Below are examples of rituals practiced by many families that may help you think of others for your own:
The great thing about family rituals is that they are mobile. If you relocate to another city, carry them with you. This will help your children adjust to their new home. Take time this week to create new rituals to help build a healthy, secure environment for your children.
(By Dr. Jane Hannah, Assistant Head of School for Academics and Programs)